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He doesnt really know how unhappy I am as I dont want to burden him with my feelings on top of his work. A few months ago it wasnt like this, he was home every night, we spent time together and it was great.
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I learned that life changes, nothing stays the same. That different unplanned circumstances can Tired of being alone looking for my mate every bit as good as the ones you planned and worked for. That the trauma of unexpected death lessens over time—more than 10 weeks—and it is a respite of sorts from the real world.
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It is all your to choose from and dabble in now. In a painful, cruel way this is your time. No one can take away your pain, you have to live and grow thru it. I still cry little every day but Dave is part of the rich heavy tapestry of my life. I still ask myself what would David do? And sometimes I do what I think he would do and sometimes not. I am better for having been a wife and I am better still for being a widow.
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After 5 years of flying solo I find that grief is not linear…I thought I had everything under control. I enjoy volunteering at shelters, offering time and talent helping others and connecting with others via organizations and events…Keep looking foreward….
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Go to sleep as early as you can, tomorrow you can try again. I am finishing my 7th year. Try not to judge any of it, i found that made it worse. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward when you can, when you cant just rest. Eventually, very slowly, things will become more managable. The life and love we shared will be a once in a life time thing and I am ok with that.
But my dear the melt downs and pain and that dark place will become far and few in between. I lost my spouse after being together for 34 yrs. Three wks before his 59th birthday. And, who could blame them. And, as some others here have stated…you must keep-on-keeping-on, as I always say. Never give-up! Forward is the only way to reinvent yourself in a positive way, at any age. Those who have left this plane on earth are the ones now in a better place.
At the start the grief was Spiritually, then it was emotionally, by Oct. I know…each day can be so different. So I just keep working on myself…re-inventing, re-establisting, re-organizing, and resting to keep a Balance on all aspects needed to go on in the best positive way that I can, even if tired of being lonely. People say get support from family and friends…huh. And, watch out for being vulunerable! People will take advantage of a lonely widow, especially if she has a home and money.
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I have been through very hard times since I was a young kid…just keep going. It always works out…believe that. It is the Divine Light, just believe it and act as if our new chapter is already wonderfully better again! But I only allow myself a 2 min. Let out that emotion then buck-up and move on with a smile for Myself!
Blessed be to all of you! In Sincerity. I am your age — younger than I thought I would ever be, as a widow, no children, sudden death, almost zero social network.
The beginning was excruciating hard — as you know, you are pretty much operating in survival mode. What got me here, I believe, was fighting every step of the way.
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In an instant everything in my life changed. As I write this I feel judged and misunderstood. I only reached out to tell you that I feel all the separation you speak of. I always say it feels like wearing a pair of shoes that are too tight!
Sandi, I hope that today finds you better. It helps to share with other widows. This is a lonely road. Sandi, I am SOO sorry for your heartbreaking and devastating loss!!!
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Good luck, may the Lords healing hand touch you and your family!!! Leslie, I understand the pain and frustration you are feeling. I lost my husband of 27 years in December of Moving forward has been difficult.
I am happy my children made it through the storm. They are productive, caring and well. The best advice I can give you is to take care of yourself. Exercise, remind yourself that every day is new after a bad day and simplify your life. I feel the same way. I feel so alone and like an outcast. No real close friends.
My kids have their on lives. I thought by now things would be better but their now. Just want to belong somewhere. Would love to have someone to talk to. I understand when you say your kids have their own lives. I have one son and if i dont contact him, i dont hear from him. I lost my husband to cancer 6 mos. Ago and dont really know how to move on because of financial insufficiency now. We were together 28 yrs. I have a shitsue whick keeps me somewhat active taking short walks 2 times a day.
But i guess im needy and lonely… no one can help. I understand how you feel. I lost the love of my life august 1, I got so desperate for love that in I married a man who had me fooled into believing he was good,after we married everything changed, he hated my kids grown snd was emotionally abusive.
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Bein know how lonely life is but. I actually got it for David as his illness was really getting him down!!!! Lets try and have a happy belng year. Hi Charlotte I do understand your pain I lost my 2nd husband 5 months after marrying him 27 years ago then 11 years later met a another beautiful man and he died New years Day I to am very alone and i wish I knew where all these grieving widows are beinv love to start a social club.
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As usual, they were all loved Tired of being alone looking for my mate any of their friends or family would have done whatever possible to stop this if they could.
There was nothing you could have done to stop your husband. I hope you really understand that. As far as avoiding uncomfortable situations, this is completely understandable.
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Thank you, Andrea. Oh, I think I can understand. The circumstances around my husbands death were so beyond anything I would ever imagine I could live through emotionally. The sudden death from a motorcycle accident and then discovering so much betrayal. My husband of 50 years ended his own life. In April I was 18 when I married, so knew no other man.
Life is lonely it does get easier. I am told you never forget. The times of sadness germs further apart. Tirec still shed a tear or two. I will never forget him. I Tired of being alone looking for my mate my wife on this day 3 years ago in She took Jekyll Brampton pussy xxx own life by hanging.
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I am 50 years old — Soon to be I relate so much since I lost my wife in a similar way Oct. Thanks for sharing. It all feels so bad. But my kids!!! I am sorry for your loss!!!! Thank you for sharing. May GOD bless you and your children. Maybe God has not abandoned us? I m also in the same situation only the difference is your husband is passed away and my husband left me alone when i was in the worst condition of my Saugatuck MI wife swapping. I wanted him to give me the support me, but that time he has girf friend and everything was going fine in his life.
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I some family support but after the dust settles and the smoke clears its you against the world again. I never thought i would join this club, i always thought i would go first with all the stress of living with a alcoholic disabled spouse.
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I grew up in a large family, then got married and had kids of my own. They all have their own lives, and live far away. For the first time in my life, I am alone, very fearful and trying so hard to fight off the extreme sadness and the brutal loneliness, I have a million questions, but not a single answer. I feel so guilty for still being here and ashamed by my weakness. The days are so long and there are nights when I barely close my eyes. Please God, help me.
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